Weird
I havent felt like blogging in a while...
Havent felt like thinking in a while...but then I got Josephine to do a tarot card reading for me, its nice to be brought back down to earth. Nice to realise I have a lot to do sometimes...
Its just a little hard to do it. I dont know why I cant bring myself to forgive people so easily. I can accept them for who they are fine, but I cant forgive what some people have done sometimes. I mean, little things between friends is nothing, but I dont know...the big things stick with me.
I'm just feeling a little weird right now.
Blah
Feeling a bit blah right now. My mind is kinda wandering...maybe wandering too far. Bah...I need to be more of an individual I think. I mean...not do things with friends ALL the time. It'd be nice to go off and do something on my own too. Sometimes I rely too heavily on friends to do something, when I could go find something to do on my own too. I mean, not just around the house, but going out by myself or wahtever, maybe just meeting some new people just to be aquintances with and such...iuno...
I'm too idealistic sometimes..
I <3 this interview
This interview was with the producer of Queer As Folk. He says some really interesting things, presents some nice perspectives I think.
Showcase.ca talks the straight dope with Queer As Folk co-executive producer Ron
Cowen.
by Darren O'Donoghue
Why do you think the show is so popular among straight people? This is not
a show strictly for gay people. I actually have a lot of straight male friends
who love the show.
Really, that's interesting. Are you sure they're straight? If they keep
watching show long enough...[laughs].
Sometimes I think it's the whole 'other world' factor that interests them.
What do you think about that?
I am very happy that straight men watch the show. I've talked to a few and I
think what's interesting is that they've all said the same thing to me. They
say, "At first I was kind of queasy about watching it, 'cause I'd never
seen it before, cause I didn't even know that you could do it face to face, I
thought you could only do it from behind."
I heard all these strange remarks, like what did they think it was, or did
they think it was really grotesque or ugly or violent, or repulsive. I have no
idea what they were imagining. Now that they've seen it, they say, "Well,
it's not that different than what I do with my girlfriend."
Dan, my partner, and I have often remarked that those are our four favourite
words that I said out front [on stage], "It's no big deal." It is a
show that elicits that response.
What's the attraction for people in general about the show?
I think they like the characters, and the actors, and, of course, the
stories. I think they like the humour. I think they like the production values,
the music, the dancing and all the production side of it. But first and
foremost, I think they really just like the characters. When you scrape away
everything else, it's a family show. This is just a family that has chosen each
other. It's not the family you were born with; it is the family you chose.
The nuclear family redefined.
I think all of us straight, gay, whatever we all have our family that we
love, that we chose. I think that's what it's all about, seeing our chosen
family.
So, Brian would personify the family head, the lead male of the household?
Yes. I guess you could call him the alpha dog.
What do you think of Will & Grace?
I've only seen Will & Grace a couple of times, just because it's a
show that I don't find interesting or appealing ... for me. I think that Will
& Grace is primarily a gay show for straight people. Queer as Folk
is a gay show for gay people, and I think that's a very significant difference.
So do you make the show with gay people in mind specifically?
First, we make it for ourselves to have fun, so we can laugh and have a good
time and say things that we really want to say. Second, we make it for our gay
friends and the gay audience and I don't think we ever -- I mean, I don't mean
to say this in an insulting way -- but we do not think of straight people when
we write the show. We don't think, "Oh are we going to offend them? Or --
Are we going to appeal to them?" If they want to come to the party, they
are invited to the party, if they don't want to come the party; that's okay,
we'll still have the party without them.
I know in the south in the United States there has been a fair amount of
vocal backlash to the show.
Yes.
Now, has the negative response grown or has it fallen by the way side?
I guess there is always going to be some straight backlash. Although I have
to tell you, I haven't heard all that much about the religious right condemning
our show too loudly. And I expected it to be scary. None of us knew what was
going to happen in that regard. We were all kind of worried but nothing credible
materialised. I would say the backlash that bothers me the most is from gay
people.
Really? Why is that? Did you automatically just assume they would come on
board?
Yes, for sure. I guess I thought that gay people would really like the show
because it was funny. Not to pat myself on the back, but I'm thinking it's a
fairly intelligent, witty show; it's clever and the characters are easy to
relate to. I get kind of distressed when I hear, "Oh, they're gay
stereotypes, there's too much sex, the sex is gratuitous."
Frankly, we do the sex, at least I'm doing the sex on the show, and I don't
mean to sound pretentious, but I'm doing it for more political reasons than
titillation. I feel that we've all seen straight people having sex in
"R" rated movies since we were born, but we've never seen gay people
having sex, so I think we've got about 35 years to catch up to. I think it's our
turn to see us having sex. And if people don't like it, 'fuck 'em.' I mean I
really feel that way.
I want straight people to keep seeing us having sex until they think it's
absolutely boring, till it's so mundane and nothing, that they don't care
anymore. I think that's when we've taken a step forward. I want the gay sex to
be boring.
Do you think that it is the fear of relationships that scares people more
than the sex? Maybe it's the fair presentation of loving relationships ... more
than the sex.
Perhaps. Perhaps, it's easier for intolerant people to accept gay people as
single and sexless, or as comedy figures, like in Will & Grace. You
can be a eunuch or you can be a clown but you can't be hot and sexy like Brian
and fuck your brains out and also be a man. The character of Brian is a very
masculine gay man; he's not a sissy. He would beat the shit out of you, just
like any straight guy would. So, I think that kind of portrayal of a gay man as
just as masculine, just as macho, and getting just as much [sex] as any straight
guy would. It's a really important for straight and gay people to see.
I really hope gay people become more comfortable with seeing themselves as
sexualized and not feeling shame, internalized homophobia, or even fear.
Thinking: "I don't want my mother to know what I do on Saturday nights. I
don't want my boss or my straight friends to know what I'm up to, or where I go
when nobody's looking." I say, own your life. If that's your life, be proud
of it. Do it, there's nothing wrong with having a sex life. It is just sex. I
think a lot of gay guys are fearful or ashamed. I think some of the criticism
sounds more like psychological problems than true criticism.
Interesting Conversation.
So today Catherine Christine and I had a really interesting conversation discussing society, perspectives, life, etc. Really really quite fun. Our views on girls and boys and how they interact in society and such was the most interesting.
We were discussing equality between males and females. I thought that they were to SOME degree equal in different ways. Though females dont get the physical equality (Money, strength, etc.) I believe they have some sort of emotional power over men as men have physical power over females. I figure it evened itself out (like homoestatsis). We finally came to the conclusion that its all a matter of perspective. I place more emphasis on the emotional aspect.
Catherine and Christine had some valid points, so it was an interesting little debate. Its really interesting to see how girls and guys see things so differently. I understand how Catherine may be thinking that physical needs can be more important tho. I mean, physical needs can impact emotional as well, just as emotional can impact physical. Damn perspectives, damn generalizations :P
Interesting to come to a nice little point where I feel I can settle and think differently and not feel so weird and needing to convince someone otherwise. Its kinda like the whole thing where...would you rather be happy and poor or rich and alone, kinda thing going on I guess.
Anyways...time for sleep...sorta ;P
Har har har~
Shaboom~~ Dance dance dance~
AHhhhhhh hahahahahah..:)
That was quite a day we had today. hahahahahaha.
Kill Bill 2 was really quite entertaining, I enjoyed the little twist and showing of both sides of the story. It gives a new perspective to 'Revenge' based films.
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I mean, seeing that Beatrix (Uma) fled without telling Bill at all, while Bill loves her at the time, and her disappearing for 3 months and him mourning her, him then finding her marrying someone and pregnant really wasnt cool for Bill. He 'over-reacted' and killed her and everyone there, but his reasoning was "I'm a murdering bastard." he knew it, she knew it. So its somewhat understandable, not acceptable, but understandable. Really quite interesting.
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So anyways, I have this strange picture of Catherine spouting feminist remarks and a bunch of people behind her going 'Yeah' and pointing in agreement.
LOL LOL!!
THAT was TOO funnie, TOOoooooo funnie, oh yes, and a spider on Catherine's shoe...from swiss chalet....hahahah. Forgot what Christine said that was funnie...but I almost rolled outta my seat laughing...it'll come to me.
Tonight was le fun, tomorrow will be more le fun :P
Here's hoping ^^
