Dreams.

Independence.

Been thinking about this for quite sometime. How healthy is it to really be totally independent? I mean, we all strive to be independent, and look down upon those who are too dependent on people. I mean, in relationships anyway, we look down on someone if they rely too heavily on someone. But then thats an extreme, the other extreme would be to be by yourself and totally independent right? And too much of anything is a bad thing...but we have so many people thinking, "I can be independent" and striving to achieve that, and others applauding them for these efforts. Why? So they can be alone?

But it does seem to me that these people dont understand the power of having another person to depend on feels. Maybe they were hurt, rejected and developing mechanisms to deal with it, or are afraid...but I have a feeling they dont truly grasp the feeling of having another person with you. Its equally as bad for those people who can only crave these feelings.

Where the happy medium is, I have yet to discover. But there is a healthy connection between being overly independent so that you dont have the comfort of having someone care for you, and overly dependent so you are left weak if someone leaves you.

Just some random thoughts.

posted by Bradimon @ 8:47 p.m.