Dreams.

A few little tips when trying to comfort someone, or make someone feel better when they are mad.

1) Do not try and defend the other person's actions until they have calmed down a lot.

2) If you do agree with the other side, then keep that out of the conversation, if they have to argue with another person about the same topic, it will not leave them happy, especially if they are stubborn, which most people are, ex. me

3) Do not dwell on why the comfortee is mad, instead, try to advice them on what TO do now. What's in the past has passed, help them try to let it go by talking about how they can fix this, change this, or advise them.

4) Let them be mad, do not tell them they are being unreasonable/irrational, tell them after they have calmed down. The comfortee does not need more people telling them that they are wrong.

5) Try and make jokes to lighten the air, or try to distract them from what is making them mad, maybe after they calm down they will see that they were mad for no reason, or if they still upset then you can debate it with them. ONLY WHEN THEY HAVE CALMED DOWN.

These little tips are just what I've picked up over the years of helpin peoples, so take what you will from it, I'm just posting it to see if I can help people help other people

Peace~

posted by Bradimon @ 1:38 p.m.